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Divorce … Is there a stigma?

by on Mar.05, 2009, under True Christianity

Divorce … its a tough, heart and gut wrenching topic to discuss.

A friend and I were discussing divorce and she made a point that I had not considered much, “Why do people who divorced, because their spouse had willfully committed adultery, get labeled divorced, when they have chosen the Godly path and ended the marriage.”

Mat 5:31-32 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Mar 10:2-12 And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him. 3 And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you? 4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. 5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. 6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. 7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; 8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. 12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

The more we talked about these and other verses concerning divorce, the more I could see that the one rightfully putting a spouse away was being marked in with a label, much like the adulterous spouse.  That’s wrong.  The injured spouse, the one not committing adultery, should not be labeled if they choose to divorce.

The cheating spouse must be labeled “divorced”, so faithful Christians will know they cannot remarry.  This serves three purposes:

  1. This gives faithful, unmarried Christians notice not to entangle their hearts with the “Divorced”.
  2. It reminds the church about the sacred value of marriage and divorce.  People need to think twice about both, as well as breaking their word to God and man.
  3. It should let the “injured party” of the marriage return to the marriageable pool of people in the church. Stop labeling these brothers and sisters.

The scriptures give enough guidance to those willing to follow it.

Later we will discuss more about divorce  and the issues surrounding it.

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